💫Episode 67 : How to Heal Karmic Relationships & Find Your Soul Purpose

"What if the people who have challenged you the most — the ones who broke your heart, pushed you to your edges, or showed up at exactly the right moment — what if all of that was part of your soul's plan, made long before you were even here in this human existence?"

That question opens one of the most profound and healing conversations Charla Goodnight has ever recorded. And the woman on the other end of it is someone she has followed since 2014 — a teacher whose meditations have played in her home, whose voice her sons would recognize, and whose work quietly shaped her spiritual foundation during one of the hardest seasons of her life.

In Episode 67 of Collective Guidance, Charla sits down with Kari Samuels — intuitive counselor, astrologer, numerologist, and the original happiness coach. Her work has helped thousands of people find meaning, joy, and direction through astrology, numerology, and intuitive wisdom. She hosts the beloved podcast Get Psyched with Kari Samuels and shares monthly astrology forecasts on YouTube. And today, she's here to talk about two of the most asked-about topics in spiritual life: soulmates and soul purpose.

Soul Purpose Is Not Your Career

Let's start here, because this reframe alone is worth the entire episode.

Kari is direct: your soul purpose is not your job title. It's not your career, your business, or the thing you're trying to build. Your soul purpose can manifest as a career — as one expression of a much larger intention — but the two are not the same thing.

So what is soul purpose? According to Kari, it's the field of study your soul chose for this lifetime. It's the theme that runs through your deepest challenges, your greatest gifts, and your most persistent patterns. And here's the part that lands like a truth bomb: your life purpose is typically the stuff that's been hardest for you.

The thing you've struggled with most? That's not evidence that something is wrong with you. That's the curriculum your soul signed up for.

Kari puts it beautifully: expressing is the opposite of depressing. That's why she calls herself a happiness coach — not because she helps people be happy all the time, but because she helps them express the unique truth of who they are. And that expression — of your gifts, your voice, your genuine self — is the key to happiness.

"Not expressing yourself leads to repression, depression, and karmic patterns. When you have the courage to express your truth, that's when you attract opportunities, feel alive, and become magnetic."

What Happens Between Lives — and How Your Soul Chooses

Before diving into soulmates, Kari offers something rare: a window into what she calls the life between lives — the space between our incarnations where, according to her readings, her research, and teachers like Michael Newton and Dolores Cannon, our souls do extraordinary work.

Here's how she describes it:

Between lifetimes, your soul is with its soul group — think of them like your homeroom classmates, the people you keep traveling through time with. Together, you review what you've learned, what you still need to work on, and what roles you'll play for each other in the next incarnation. A husband in one life might return as a sibling. A friend might become a mentor. A rival might become your greatest teacher.

And the gifts you've accumulated over lifetime after lifetime? They come with you. That's part of your purpose — expressing and building on the capacities your soul has developed across many lives.

What Is a Soulmate — Really?

Most people think of a soulmate as one perfect person destined to complete them. Kari's understanding is richer and more nuanced than that.

There are karmic soulmates — people you've shared experiences with over multiple lifetimes, still working through agreements, lessons, and patterns together. These relationships often come with intense chemistry that feels almost impossible to resist. And when things crash and burn, you find yourself wondering: why couldn't I get out of that?

The answer, according to Kari, is that you made an agreement. Before you were born, you and that soul said: I need to learn how to believe in myself. Come down as someone who challenges that, and I'll have to find it from within.

There are also uplift soulmates — people who are here simply to inspire, support, and walk alongside you for the long term.

And here's something liberating: you have more than one potential soulmate. You have several opportunities, depending on the paths you take. Meeting one doesn't mean you missed another. Free will plays a role, and the soul is always finding its way.

Beyond romance, soulmates exist in business, in friendship, in mentorship. Kari points to spiritual board of advisors — guides who specialize in exactly what you're working on — as a beautiful parallel. The right collaborators, teachers, and allies in your life are not accidents. They are part of the plan.

Why Your Most Difficult Relationships Are Your Greatest Teachers

Here's where the conversation gets both challenging and deeply freeing.

Kari describes karma not as punishment, but as balance. As scales. And many of the karmic patterns she has seen in her readings — especially among empaths, healers, and highly sensitive people — center around one core lesson: learning to put yourself first.

If you've spent a lifetime giving, accommodating, swallowing your feelings to keep the peace, never asking for what you need — you may have attracted relationships that mirrored that imbalance. Not because you did something wrong. But because your soul chose a challenge that would make this lesson impossible to ignore.

The path through? Kari offers a deeply moving practice:

Extract the relationship from the equation. Ask yourself: How does this situation make me feel? And how have I felt this way before — not just in this relationship, but across my whole life? That recurring feeling? That's the karmic pattern. That's what's asking to be healed.

Then ask: How do I want to feel instead? And call on your highest level guides and angels to help you begin to embody that feeling — not just understand it, but live it, in your body, in your choices, in how you show up.

This is the work. Not analyzing the other person. Not replaying the wound. But finding the pattern, taking ownership of how you've contributed to it, forgiving yourself, and choosing differently.

Healing Past Lives Without Knowing What They Were

Here's a relief for anyone who has never experienced a past life regression: you don't need to know what your past life was in order to heal it.

What you do need to recognize is the pattern. If there is an area of your life that keeps following you — a recurring relationship dynamic, a persistent block, a belief that feels ancient and immovable — that is a karmic pattern. And the formula for healing it is the same regardless of which lifetime it originated in:

Recognize how it makes you feel. Understand how your own actions have perpetuated it. Forgive yourself — knowing that your soul actually sought this experience to learn and grow. And then consciously begin to move toward the feeling you want to embody instead.

Numerology: Your Name and Birthdate Are No Accident

Charla's middle son is a 22 life path — one of the master numbers — and his curiosity about numerology becomes a beautiful thread in the final stretch of this conversation.

Kari, who describes numerology as a gift she came in with rather than something she learned from books, explains it this way: numerology is the study of names and numbers, letters and vibrations. Like astrology, it reveals your soul's blueprint — your greatest gifts, your deepest challenges, and the karmic patterns you brought in with you.

Your birthdate is no accident. Your name is no accident. Your soul planned both as part of the map.

Kari has name calculators, life path calculators, and a free e-book available on her website for anyone who wants to explore. She calculates using the Pythagorean method and brings a healing, trauma-informed lens to karmic numbers — rather than treating them as marks of past mistakes, she sees them as windows into the fears and experiences the soul carried in.

We Are Co-Creators, Not Sole Creators

One of the most grounding moments in this episode comes when Kari and Charla push back — gently but clearly — against the oversimplification that everything happens for a reason or that we create our own reality entirely.

The truth, they agree, is more nuanced and more honest: we are co-creators. We co-create our reality through our thoughts, feelings, energy, and choices — but we do so within a collective, within larger forces, within a world that is real and sometimes deeply unjust. The soul finds meaning. The soul grows. But that doesn't mean we bypass the 3D or pretend nothing hard is actually happening.

This is Collective Guidance at its core: not passive spiritual bypassing, but grounded, embodied, awake participation in the full human experience — with all the support of the unseen world available to us.

Connect With Kari Samuels

• Podcast: Get Psyched with Kari Samuels — available on all platforms

• YouTube: Monthly astrology forecasts and teachings

• Website: karisamuels.com — numerology calculators, free e-book, and more

• Spelling: K-A-R-I Samuels

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